Sorry, that's totally off topic now but I read an interesting article in another community and this made me think.
What is love actually?When do I love somebody? I mean, where is the difference between
"to be in love" and
"real love"?
Everybody knows how it is to be in love. Having the famous butterflies in your tummy, being nervous before you meet the other person, happiness when you see the other person, and so on.
But when does it change to real love?
If you can't stop thinking about this person?
If you can't stop talking about this person?
If you would do everything for this person?
If you feel secure if this person simply is around you?
If you feel happy about every kind word from this person?
If you always think about what would make this person happy?
If everything inside you screams "I want to see you!" and it hurts when you can't see this person as often as you want to?
If you still feel these emotions even you've been rejected?
Is this real love?
I think everybody feels different about this.
Well, if you've really been rejected, does it make sense having still feelings for this person?
Wouldn't it be better to banish your thoughts and feelings for this person?
To banish... easy to say but in reality mostly very difficult!
Okay, what can you do in such a situation?
1. Break off the contact, distract yourself with other things, meet new people and try to enjoy your life!But how shall this work out if this person is always in your mind?
2. Start a consolation relationship!Find another person, which you like and try to get over your feelings.
The problem: Such relationships will never last long and it's unfair for the "replacement-person".
3. Find a new "true love"!This might work out but how can you be sure that it is not just another "consolation relationship"?
Also what if you believe, that you'll never find such a great person like your beloved one again? If you are sure that he or she is the most amazing human in the world and that nobody else on this planet can compete with him or her?
This makes the situation a little bit difficult...
4. Fight for your true love!But does it make sense if you've already been rejected?
If you still feel love for this person and show it (too) clearly, this might be annoying for him or her by and by.
If you love this person and wish that he or she loves you back – isn't it selfish?
Shouldn't you care more about the feelings of your beloved person and your only wish should be just happiness for him or her?
One-way love... many people have to accept their fate. They continue to love this person – a platonic, hopeless, secret love, expecting nothing in return.
Is this a good solution? I don't know...
Everybody has to decide on his own, what is the best for each of you.
I heard there is nothing better than to love somebody, even love comes together with sorrow and pain.
Well, but there
IS something better!! If you love and your beloved person loves you too!
"The greatest thing you'll ever learn is just to love and be loved in return"Think about it.
